Wife’s sex drive is barely in sear
My wife’s sex drive is barely in sear, and she’s only 35. Should she take the “female Viagra” we’ve read about?
answer:
The “female Viagra” you’re referring to is the same drug men use, except recently it’s been tested on women. Viagra can increase your wife’s sensations of warmth and engorgement in the genital area and even enhance orgasm. But that’s arousal, not libido, or what you call “sex drive.” So before you even suggest she try Viagra or one of the other prescription medicines like it, you need to determine what’s really behind your wife’s lack of interest in sex. Start by forgetting about sex. See, often the root of the problem is a communication or happiness issue. Try being romantic with your wife outside of the bedroom, taking her out on dinner dates and doing things she likes to do. Showing her your empathy and love should empower her to open up about underlying pressures in her life.
But let’s say the cause isn’t emotional. If you used to have a strong sex life, chances are she is aware of the change and will be open to talking about potential physical causes. Is she experiencing vaginal pain? Has she started taking an antidepressant? (Some prescription drugs can dampen libido.) Encourage her to talk with her doctor. Within the safe haven of a loving relationship, couples should be able to talk about anything, even sexual dysfunction. It’s a complicated issue, one that popping a pill won’t remedy.