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You don’t have to introduce yourself to total strangers just to expand your social circle. Instead, try this: Approach a friend-in-law- that is, a friend of a friend. your best friend’s colleague seems nice? Invite her to go shopping. And the next time you’re at a house party, grab some drinks and offer some to the friends-in-law you always bump into but haven’t bothered to talk to. As we grow older, it’s easy to stay in our comfort zones and stick to the same group of friends. But you’d be surprised at how new friendships can expand your world, with just a little effort. Friends-in-law are the easiest way to break out of that rut. Plus, in case the conversation dies, you’ll always have a common friend you can talk about!

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If a woman is on your level exactly, you may tell her she looks nice. If she’s subordinate, you may not. Period. If she is not in your department, makes more money than you, and has a superior title, tell her she looks very nice indeed. Under no circumstances, however, may you touch her—not even to remove a piece of invisible lint. And don’t think she’s oblivious to your looks. She knows. They always know.

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Senior company officials who promote backstabbing employees are total assholes, too, aren’t they? Why should they reward your civilized behavior when it’s a reproof of everything they stand for? They’re far more comfortable promoting someone who is brutal, selfish, and mean. They know that guy. He’s them. The good news is that your road, although harder, is definitely the happier of the two. Don’t become a creep. You’ll eventually triumph by building consensus, performing with distinction, and fighting face-to-face with your backstabbing colleague. Good guys almost always do fine in the long run. If things aren’t going your way now, wait a minute. Time is on your side.

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Not if she’s a woman. We all have one. However, not all women are responsive to G-spot stimulation, and some simply don’t enjoy it. Others say G-spot orgasms are much more intense than those achieved through clitoral stimulation. I think you and your wife should go find her G-spot. Call it a treasure hunt minus the pirate’s eye patch. Here’s what you’re looking for: a small bean-size spot of spongy tissue located in the front wall of the vagina, almost directly below the urethra. You don’t need a GPS; just explore the area with your finger by applying firm, rhythmic pressure upward. How do you know when you’ve found it? You’ll feel it swell—as large as a dime—when it’s stimulated. Besides, she’ll let you know with oohs and aahs.

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The “female Viagra” you’re referring to is the same drug men use, except recently it’s been tested on women. Viagra can increase your wife’s sensations of warmth and engorgement in the genital area and even enhance orgasm. But that’s arousal, not libido, or what you call “sex drive.” So before you even suggest she try Viagra or one of the other prescription medicines like it, you need to determine what’s really behind your wife’s lack of interest in sex. Start by forgetting about sex. See, often the root of the problem is a communication or happiness issue. Try being romantic with your wife outside of the bedroom, taking her out on dinner dates and doing things she likes to do. Showing her your empathy and love should empower her to open up about underlying pressures in her life.

But let’s say the cause isn’t emotional. If you used to have a strong sex life, chances are she is aware of the change and will be open to talking about potential physical causes. Is she experiencing vaginal pain? Has she started taking an antidepressant? (Some prescription drugs can dampen libido.) Encourage her to talk with her doctor. Within the safe haven of a loving relationship, couples should be able to talk about anything, even sexual dysfunction. It’s a complicated issue, one that popping a pill won’t remedy.

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When a wife complains about her husband not doing housework, it’s rarely about dirty dishes but rather about dirty laundry. An unresolved conflict is causing her irritation. You need to uncover the message behind her complaints. Most women won’t reveal what’s really bugging them in the heat of an argument, so wait until things quiet down. Try to give your wife the sense that it’s safe to discuss what she’s feeling and thinking. You do this with a tone of voice that says you are okay with her feeling the way she’s feeling. Try calmly mirroring what you see: “You were upset with me earlier today when I didn’t help pick up the living room. I wonder if there was something else that was upsetting you.” Promise yourself that you’ll listen without getting defensive. The goal is to understand what’s really troubling her. She may feel unappreciated. Re sodding the backyard won’t address that. Ask her what will. Better yet, use your imagination.

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Two months? That isn’t long enough to evaluate the job at all. And yes, unless there is a very good reason it won’t reflect well that she gave in after such a short time. And I do think that it is a bit dramatic to be really miserable in two months, unless she is being horribly bullied in the office. There are parts of every job that are mundane. So, your friend should speak to her boss, tell her that she would love to take on more responsibility and challenges, and instead of feeling stuck in a rut, try to do something with the situation.

Researchers have taken an anatomical approach to the issue of whether prostatelike components are in female ejaculate. They believe that if women ejaculate a fluid that is not urine, then it must be coming from someplace other than the bladder. The most likely source was thought to be the female paraurethral, or Skene’s, glands. Autopsy tests of Skene’s glands have found substances identical to those found in the prostate. Some experts now call these glands the “female prostate.”